What is the Gottman Method?

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Developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman, pioneers in the field of relationship research, the Gottman Method is a science-based approach that combines decades of research with practical interventions. It is designed to help couples build stronger connections, navigate conflicts and foster a deeper understanding of each other.

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Key Principles of the Gottman Method:

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1. The Sound Relationship House: The Gottman Method is built upon the Sound Relationship House theory, which outlines the essential components for a healthy, lasting relationship. This includes building love maps, sharing fondness and admiration, turning towards each other, managing conflict, making life dreams come true, creating shared meaning, and establishing trust.

2. The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse: Drs. John and Julie Gottman identified four negative communication patterns—criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling—that can predict the end of a relationship if not addressed. The Gottman Method provides practical tools to replace these destructive patterns with healthier communication styles.

3. Emotional Bids and Turning Towards: The method emphasizes the importance of recognizing and responding to emotional bids—small gestures or expressions of emotional connection. Learning to turn towards your partner's bids strengthens the emotional connection and builds a foundation of trust.

4. The Love Lab: The Gottman Institute is renowned for its "Love Lab," a research facility where couples' interactions are observed and analyzed. This extensive research informs the method's interventions and strategies, ensuring they are grounded in real-world effectiveness.

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Experience the transformative power of the Gottman Method. Contact me today to schedule a consultation and embark on a journey towards lasting love and connection.